My husband is just 52 and I’m 42, both of us were married before. I have 2 kids (20 girl, 17 boy) to my ex, and he has a 17 year old girl to his ex. All our kids live with our ex’s, except my daughter, she and her boyfriend bought a house together, but my two kids come and see us more and talk to us more than my husband’s daughter. Last year my husband was diagnosed with “ALS” – Lou Gehrig’s Disease. We’ve only been together for 4 years and married for 3 this September 16th. This marriage for both of us was “the ONE”!!! Now everyday I see Pat (my husband) wither away to nothing and it tears me to pieces inside. We thought we’d spend a life time together, we had everything going for us, we are very compatable, never fought, always got along, talked about anything and everything. He was my one and only bestest friend, now I’m his full time care giver. He’s asked me twice now to leave him b/c he says that I don’t deserve to live like this and that he let me down as a man. He didn’t give me that house on a hill that we always wanted, and instead of him taking care of me forever, it’s me taking care of him. He’s my husband, I vowed to love him, cherish him in sickness and in health, and besides, I promised not only myself, but his mother that I wouldn’t put Pat in a home to die. Pat will die around me and our animals, the people that love him, and I REFUSE to leave him. It’s hard, it’s going to get harder, I have a lot of medical problems myself, but for right now, my husband comes first in my book. I still go to my doctors, and I take him with me while I still can, when he can’t go anymore, that’s when my doctors will have to be put on hold. I’m losing him a little bit each day and I can’t do a damn thing about it. I’ve emailed everybody I can think of. Pat’s a Veteran of the USMC, and the Government is dragging their feet on getting us help (money and veteran benefits) on getting out of this shit hole trailer park that we live in and into a ranch style house of our own. Hey Sarah, he’s waking up and I have to go help him, hope to hear from you.
Mare
My husband is just 52 and I’m 42, both of us were married before. I have 2 kids (20 girl, 17 boy) to my ex, and he has a 17 year old girl to his ex. All our kids live with our ex’s, except my daughter, she and her boyfriend bought a house together, but my two kids come and see us more and talk to us more than my husband’s daughter. Last year my husband was diagnosed with “ALS” – Lou Gehrig’s Disease. We’ve only been together for 4 years and married for 3 this September 16th. This marriage for both of us was “the ONE”!!! Now everyday I see Pat (my husband) wither away to nothing and it tears me to pieces inside. We thought we’d spend a life time together, we had everything going for us, we are very compatable, never fought, always got along, talked about anything and everything. He was my one and only bestest friend, now I’m his full time care giver. He’s asked me twice now to leave him b/c he says that I don’t deserve to live like this and that he let me down as a man. He didn’t give me that house on a hill that we always wanted, and instead of him taking care of me forever, it’s me taking care of him. He’s my husband, I vowed to love him, cherish him in sickness and in health, and besides, I promised not only myself, but his mother that I wouldn’t put Pat in a home to die. Pat will die around me and our animals, the people that love him, and I REFUSE to leave him. It’s hard, it’s going to get harder, I have a lot of medical problems myself, but for right now, my husband comes first in my book. I still go to my doctors, and I take him with me while I still can, when he can’t go anymore, that’s when my doctors will have to be put on hold. I’m losing him a little bit each day and I can’t do a damn thing about it. I’ve emailed everybody I can think of. Pat’s a Veteran of the USMC, and the Government is dragging their feet on getting us help (money and veteran benefits) on getting out of this shit hole trailer park that we live in and into a ranch style house of our own. Hey Sarah, he’s waking up and I have to go help him, hope to hear from you.
Mare